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Reclaiming Womanhood in the Birthing Space
In honor of Mother’s Day having just passed, I wanted to write a blog about moms. But this isn’t your typical tribute to their superpowers or endless sacrifices. This is about mothers in the sense of how God designed them — as women.
This topic has increasingly entered the birthing world. I first noticed it during my doula training, and then it's presence across many organizations and online doula communities. I later saw it show up during my own prenatal visits as well.
If you’re wondering what I’m referring to, it’s the term “pregnant people.”
At first glance, the phrase may seem harmless. But I believe it is not. There is no such thing as a “pregnant person.” Only women can be pregnant. As someone who has carried a child, and as a Christian, I believe deeply that God created distinct and purposeful roles for men and women.
The term "pregnant person" erases part of the beauty of womanhood — the miracle of what a female body is capable of. Biologically speaking, only women can conceive, carry, and give birth. That alone renders the term “pregnant people” unnecessary and inaccurate.
A Biblical Perspective
God created mankind — male and female — in His image. He did not create man, woman, other, or undefined. He certainly didn’t create human males with the ability to carry children.
Yes, some bring up the case of seahorses, where males carry and give birth. But seahorses are the exception in the animal kingdom, not the rule — and more importantly, we are not seahorses. Human biology was clearly and divinely designed: pregnancy is for women.
A Feminist Perspective
Even apart from a Christian worldview, there’s a feminist argument to be made. Women have fought for generations for equality, recognition, and autonomy. That fight includes honoring the uniquely female experience of pregnancy and birth.
Was that hard-won progress for nothing?
The push to use terms like “pregnant person” undermines the achievements of women, blurs the boundaries of womanhood, and diminishes the significance of what women endure — physically, emotionally, and spiritually — during pregnancy and childbirth. It is not inclusive to erase what is inherently female.
“Chestfeeding” and Male Lactation
Another shift in language is the move away from "breastfeeding" in favor of "chestfeeding." I find this not only illogical but also concerning. All humans, regardless of gender identity, have breasts — even after surgery. So why the need to rename it?
More importantly, there are health concerns when men take medication to induce lactation. Many of these drugs, like domperidone or hormone therapy, come with clear warnings — especially for pregnant or breastfeeding individuals — due to the risk of drug transfer through breast milk.
Babies are incredibly vulnerable. Exposure to medications and synthetic hormones could have unknown effects on their development. While the breast can filter some toxins, it’s not foolproof. And if men are taking hormones to lactate, there’s a real possibility that these hormones can reach the baby.
This is not about judgment — it’s about safety.
My Stand as a Christian Woman and Doula
As a believer, I cannot and will not refer to a pregnant woman as a "pregnant person," nor will I call breastfeeding "chestfeeding." Scripture is clear: God gave the responsibility of childbearing to women. When He spoke to Eve, He declared that she would experience pain in childbirth. To Adam, He gave the burden of laboring the land. These weren’t just punishments — they were roles.
I’ve experienced pregnancy, labor, and delivery. It was painful, sacred, and incredibly hard. But it was also a blessing. That experience is not something to be diluted or redefined. It should remain something uniquely endured and cherished by women.
While others in the birthing space may adopt inclusive language for their clients, I choose to stand firm in my values. To me, pregnancy and breastfeeding are sacred and biologically female experiences.
My Final Thought
If you're a woman and this blog offends you, I ask: why? What part of womanhood feels threatened by affirming it?
If you’re a man and you feel offended, again I ask: why? Why do you desire to carry this burden?
If you are transgender and this offends you, I gently ask: what exactly offends you? The belief that only women can bear children is not an act of hate, but a deeply held belief in biology, faith, and the sanctity of womanhood.
Let’s honor mothers — women — for the strength, the sacrifice, and the divine role they fulfill in bringing life into the world.
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